What is Consent?
Relationships are about choices, and so is consent. Consent is both you and your partner choosing to participate in sexual activity, and making that clear to each other. It's not complicated; it's just the right thing to do.
Consent isn't "They didn't say no." Consent is "They said yes." Be a real partner and do the right thing: ask.
Consent is:
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Clear
Everyone should be clear what they are consenting to. -
Freely Given
You shouldn't be pressured, bullied, or tricked. Your partner shouldn't use a position of power or authority (such as being your manager at work, etc.). -
Current
Just because you've had sex with your partner before doesn't mean it's automatic. Consent should be present every time you are intimate with a person. -
Ongoing
You should consent to each sexual act: just because you're interested in one activity doesn't mean you want to do another. People's desires and feelings of comfort and safety can change, and that's OK. -
Changeable
You and your partner can always change your minds. Check with your partner throughout the sexual activity, especially if they don't seem to be enthusiastic, and respect their answer. For more information, visit .
How to Ask
Chances are, you're not going to formally say "Partner, do you hereby consent to...?" That sounds a little awkward. Consent can take the form of asking questions like 鈥淐an I [fill in the blank]?鈥� or 鈥淒o you want me to do [fill in the blank]?鈥�
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Alcohol and Drugs
What does the law say about consent and alcohol or drugs? There cannot be consent where the victim/survivor is 鈥渋ncapable of consenting to the activity鈥�. There is, however, no definition of how drunk or high someone needs to be, to be unable to consent. This would be decided by judges/juries if a sexual assault charge makes it to court. The law is clear that all of the parties must be conscious and awake during the sexual activity, even if they consented previously. (Source: )
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